tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23254997.post19640959673588261..comments2023-09-23T03:23:06.597-06:00Comments on Banku, Pho and Fried Spiders: Ethics in Adoption: Visa Question Stumped Us!A. Gillispiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05867049082571384585noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23254997.post-26200723025119636542007-08-14T12:55:00.000-06:002007-08-14T12:55:00.000-06:00I am so glad you ask the question and also mention...I am so glad you ask the question and also mentioned your experience.<BR/><BR/>Of course I want ethical adoptions to be taking place. But I am tired of hearing about it from people who had timely adoptions, with no agency problems, no in country problems, no embassy problems, and healthy kids. They are usually the same people who tell you in the next breath (bouncing their very healthy baby girl on their knee) that was because it was God's plan (as if he had no plans for you or your sick child, as you had one problem after the other.)<BR/><BR/>Everything I could find about my agency at that point a few years ago said it was a good agency. I did ask all the right questions and did my homework. What are you supposed to do about a new program and a lot of lies? Once in the foreign third world country I get handed a sick baby, no one will clear the paper work, I can't get home for months and I can't leave the baby.<BR/><BR/>That said I do know of a few people who went through pretty much the same and still stuck to their principles. I admire them for that, but also wonder as it was their child, and one family came home with no child. They came home very sad, but their child lost a chance at a home and maybe any sort of a life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com