tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23254997.post2362393099427150573..comments2023-09-23T03:23:06.597-06:00Comments on Banku, Pho and Fried Spiders: So NOT Perfect (follow up)A. Gillispiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05867049082571384585noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23254997.post-72515942149878866842009-12-05T09:12:15.179-06:002009-12-05T09:12:15.179-06:00LOVED that post!! I was too busy in my own Castle ...LOVED that post!! I was too busy in my own Castle of Joy to read much yesterday, and no , our tree is not up yet either. The old one died, and I am not ready to spend the $$ for the one I want, but don't want to buy a real one particularly because my hands can't touch pine stuff....allergies...We LOVE real trees, but we love the ease of pre-lit too.<br />My dad was #7 of 8 and his memories of growing up are so totally different from his oldest brother Ken who was the second born. Don't know if I can state a thery here, but the grumpier ones of the family, the ones who, like my dad seem to have few memeories of fun, laughter, music, noise, all died young. I mean like 68, My Uncle Ken just turned 90 this summer. He calls me to check in and to tell me how much like his own childhood house ours is: FULL OF LOVE, FULL OF NOISE and ACTIVITY. MY dad would visit and tell me about the mess he saw. his memories are of his house being very quiet and orderly. My oldest aunt is 89 and she still shoots pool Ken lives on his own, chops his own wood in northern Pa, Ruth lives i nan assisted living facility in Florida but still shoots pool regularly. I knew them all, and yes, the grumpier ones died first. My point is that , like you, I tend to hear my kids ask "who's coming over?" if I say "Let's get this swept and tidied" (not always, but , yah.....) and its OK. We will never win Better Home and Gardens awards for efficiency or smooth running order, or amazingly awesome storage use. WE are loud , we are full of fun, the girls love to sit on the island in the kitchen when we cook together, the kids do rip stick around in the dining room, I do wash "high 5" marks off the portion of wall above the doorways because my basketball playing boys can not avoid a temptation to slam dunk -slap that high spot. I decided a long time ago that I could be comfortable with some mess or clutter and not miss a basketball game, gym meet, play or hang out together time. When we clean we usually do it all togeher anyhow. Maybe coz I have known you for so long I never felt like you were keeping part of you back or only telling part of your story when blogging. I think that I have just put the what I have seen and heard together with what I read and it all just fits Anita, really it does. I love that our kids love to come to Auntie Linda's house because Y'all are always welcome!!!whenpigsflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01657750078547459279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23254997.post-75289627578738189652009-12-05T02:42:04.425-06:002009-12-05T02:42:04.425-06:00Good follow up... you had some good responses in y...Good follow up... you had some good responses in your original post that I had not gone back to look at...<br /><br />I loved Renee's description of all the noise being called Joy! Sometimes it is and sometimes I wouldn't quite use that word. Maybe I will respond better when I am frustrated if I tell myself it is joyful before I ask them to turn it down a notch! I am going to give that a try!<br /><br />Also forgot in original post to mention the bowel thing. We had a child who would have night time potty accidents especially when stressed with change (school starting, sibling coming home). When it lasted longer that I expected, doc asked about bowel and if she only went less frequently and if she was constipated more often and said that is what was causing the wetting because of the extra pressure on bladder- it made her urinate more often and she went smaller amounts because of it. She recommended some over the counter powder to give her but child did not like and had fits so I just monitored the situation and we were able to get through it by me slightly adjusting the diet and encouraging her to try to have bowel movement more often. Probably TMI but point is, it may be worth asking doc about it.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13005810600633310103noreply@blogger.com