tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23254997.post8570535696154936292..comments2023-09-23T03:23:06.597-06:00Comments on Banku, Pho and Fried Spiders: Gender IdentityA. Gillispiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05867049082571384585noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23254997.post-5465167228142631632008-11-07T18:52:00.000-06:002008-11-07T18:52:00.000-06:00Good for you!Good for you!Global Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07001797166455244101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23254997.post-90350166042404016062008-10-30T21:36:00.000-06:002008-10-30T21:36:00.000-06:00What a great post! Very thoughtful exploration of ...What a great post! Very thoughtful exploration of a difficult subject. (I linked to this post at my blog; hope you don't mind.) =)<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your insights.Kimberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05854102351187605532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23254997.post-43878580576732977832008-10-30T12:50:00.000-06:002008-10-30T12:50:00.000-06:00Great post! We sometimes see this with our son - ...Great post! We sometimes see this with our son - but he has 3 (soon to be 4) sisters... he's outnumbered! So he does often play "house" and dolls and that sort of stuff. He also collects bugs. :) But where my son and daughter grew up, they were happy for any toys or clothes - no one cared what was for "boys" or "girls". Hana LOVED all Abi's toy cars and similar items at first (she's a bit more "girly" now) and was very put out if she didn't get all the same things.<BR/><BR/>Sometimes I think we privileged Americans "worry" about such things because we are fortunate to "have" so much... When we should just be thankful we have children that have a broader view on life and see beyond just Spiderman or just Princesses...<BR/><BR/>Anyways, great post.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09629566265778204962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23254997.post-10439075528368721082008-10-30T08:11:00.000-06:002008-10-30T08:11:00.000-06:00Thanks for your comments on this. Like I said in ...Thanks for your comments on this. Like I said in my post, I fully expect all of my kids to blur the line between conventional "boy annd girl" in their play. Bright has just taken it to a new level in our home, so Eric and I have felt the need to go down the "what if" road.<BR/><BR/>I think that someone who has gender identity issues (this may NOT be Bright!!) really does have a hard road to travel down. I totally agree that changing genders won't necessarily bring Happiness. It may, but it may not. For our family, if we were ever to have a child who felt he/she was the wrong gender, we would allow our child to explore those feelings and their true likes or dislikes. But I don't think we would allow our child to change genders (meaning dressing the opposite gender) as a minor. That is a decision he/she could make as an adult. They say that 80% of gender confused kids eventually choose to remain the gender that matches their genetalia.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, great comments!A. Gillispiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05867049082571384585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23254997.post-71051199490965749332008-10-29T23:17:00.000-06:002008-10-29T23:17:00.000-06:00Anita,I adore you and your a great Mommy for lovin...Anita,<BR/>I adore you and your a great Mommy for loving and supporting your son while he explores age appropriate play and growth. I love this post!<BR/>Love ya always!<BR/>SarahMomto16https://www.blogger.com/profile/02209044048232703879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23254997.post-31634025840632469762008-10-29T20:07:00.000-06:002008-10-29T20:07:00.000-06:00Very interesting post. Thanks for "putting yourse...Very interesting post. Thanks for "putting yourself out there" with honesty and openness.<BR/><BR/>I've had kids that play with all things ... we don't focus on gender with toys, because we don't focus on gender in "real life". Two of my boys have been the BEST in the kitchen ... they love to cook and bake. One of my girls LOVED to mow the lawn, so she would be outside working while her brother was inside baking. But ... they are still very much girl ... and boy. No question of gender identity as they got older.<BR/><BR/>One question I had, while reading your post was ... who has he bonded most closely with? You and Taevy or your husband and Samren. If he has happened to bond more closely to you and Taevy, it may be that he is emulating YOU, rather than a specific gender. Just a thought...<BR/><BR/>Now ... if years go by and he continues to display a great desire to be a girl ... I would get counseling for him. The choice to change one's gender does not necessarily bring the happiness that the person so craves. It only creates many more issues in the person's life. I have a brother ... that became my sister. He has not had an easy time. I believe he is now more unhappy than he was before the change, when he thought the change would bring happiness.Laurelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17253303288242135440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23254997.post-37079396594088325972008-10-29T19:52:00.000-06:002008-10-29T19:52:00.000-06:00I bought my 4 year old Nephew that loved baby doll...I bought my 4 year old Nephew that loved baby dolls a boy cabbage patch doll for christams one year.He Named the doll Herman.And loved it.My nephew is 19 now and very much a Man.And He still has His Baby Herman Doll...Mary In OhioMaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09263848858198382966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23254997.post-65511858352783864832008-10-29T16:22:00.000-06:002008-10-29T16:22:00.000-06:00Your story reminds me of one of the kids in my kin...Your story reminds me of one of the kids in my kindergarten class. Every day - EVERYDAY - at choice time he chose to play dress up and always picked the frilly dress and sparkly purse and then go and build with Legos. One day I asked him why he always picked that dress. His response? Why not?<BR/><BR/>I always think it's interesting that people worry about the boys who show an interest in girly things but girls who show and interest in boy things are just "well rounded". <BR/><BR/>Personally, I think this will make him a stronger husband and father because he is in touch with his feminine side.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com