I actually had a dream about this last night. I looked at Adinkra symbols before bed and I guess they got "stuck" in the 'ol brain for sleeping. In my dream it was very important that I choose the right Adinkra symbol to represent each member of our family. The symbol given was a great honor to the person. The symbol was to be a reminder to them of their true nature--what they have been through and where they are going. When I woke up I couldn't remember the specific symbols that I had chosen in my dream, but there are the symbols I choose for my family in my waking hours:
MYSELF: It's hard to choose for yourself, but I chose "Boa Me Na Me Mmoa Wo." "Help me and let me help you." It is the symbol of cooperation and interdependance. So much of my life is described by "Help me and let me help you." With my marriage, I must help by doing things that aren't typical of the wife, but my husband assists in different ways that cause me to depend on him as much as he depends on me! In my life as mom, my goal is to help my children become good Christians and good citizens of our world. But they must allow my assistence in order to learn. In my work, there is a constant forwards and backwards pulling motion because of all the factors that go into completing an internatiion adoptions. I help parents. They help me. I help our staff in Ghana, and they help our families in America. The balance of relationship is neverending with my work. "Help me, and let me help you."