In my last post I mentioned that I'd like to be able to revisit Vietnam because the circumstances surrounding my time there sort of prevented me from falling in love with the country like I did with Cambodia and Ghana. In the comments of that message someone else commented that they also had a difficult time connecting with their child's birth country and were glad to know they weren't alone. This makes me wonder, how common is this?
I know that this isn't something that I write about much because I want to be very respectful of my son. I don't want him to think that I don't see beauty in his birth country. I do. I don't want him to think that I don't love where he comes from. I do. But I suppose it's a bit like attachment. Some parents have an instant attachment with their kids; others have to sort of work at it.
Before I visited Vietnam I was *so* excited to put my feet on that soil! And looking back, I definitely have some very sweet and beautiful memories from our time there. It's the over all FEELING of the experience that I've had to work on. I really have had to continue to read about the country...to see it through the eyes of others to fully appreciate it. I think that if I were to go back I would have a totally different feeling. It would all come together. I already have an amazing child from this country. I have lots of head knowledge about the beauty of the land and culture. The only thing missing is actual first hand experience to tie it all together. It will happen.
I'm sure it's not just "K" and I who didn't have an instant connection to our child's birth country. Anybody else want to join in the conversation? It looks like with K and I it was major stress that prevented us from "attaching" to the country like we thought we would. What caused you not to "attach?"