I'm a mom, in Ghana. I love my children, but I just can't care for them anymore. I've tried. I make kenke when I can, and sell it on the side of the road. The kids dad never accepted them as children--never even attended the naming ceremony. My parents are dead and my siblings are all struggling to feed their own kids. They won't help me with mine.
I got in touch with this NGO, and asked them for help. They told me that they could help with the kids' education--could find sponsors. That would be great, but it's not enough. How do I know that the sponsors won't stop sponsoring? That doesn't help me with food in the pot at night. And the thing is...when I get really stressed out...I beat the kids. I love them, but life is just too much. I need a permanent solution.
The NGO told me that there are people in America that would adopt my children. I would lose them forever, but they would be safe, and loved. Here in Ghana, I can love them but I can't keep them safe. I have decided to make an adoption plan for my children. The NGO said they will take me to Social Welfare so that everything is above board and legal.
A family has been found for my kids. The NGO called and said that I need to go to another appointment, before the court case. I'm nervous, but I know I'm making the right decision.
I went to Social Welfare today. It went horribly. The person asked me if I knew what adoption is. The person asked me if I intended to profit. The person asked me if I understood that I will have no rights to my children if they are adopted. I know all of these things. I think I answered the right way. But then...then the person shames me for my decision. They say that if I don't want my children, it should be fine if they are sent to a huge government orphanage. I don't want my children there. Children die there. Children fade away there. There is no hope of adoption for them there.
Why is this happening? Should I not be allowed to make an adoption plan for my children? Have I broken laws in truthfully admitting that I would like another family to raise them? Why should Social Welfare try to punish me for making the best choice I know how to make? I know I am not the best mom, but shouldn't I have the right to choose what happens to my children? Choosing adoption for them is choosing hope. It is not the same as choosing to put them in an orphanage where they will be nothing to nobody. My choice has been taken away.
Social Welfare told me to bring my children back tomorrow--so that they can ship them off to an orphanage. What am I going to do? What am I going to do....
Based on a true story.